In such moments, we do listen but from a lens that only goes so far. It’s uncomfortable to be present, our thoughts think “we all can feel this way. It’ll be alright, now get over it and move on. Suck it up.”
Just yesterday this happened to me. I immediately reacted and said, “there’s no way you can stay like this, come on now!” I started giving examples when suddenly…
I stopped myself.
They get better!
Being strong all the time doesn’t work!
Mental Health Concerns in Men is Increasing Because:
- There’s pressure to “man up” or be a man in a new environment, leaving you to have to figure it out on your own.
- Medical professionals ignore isolation and anxiety as a signs of struggle. In fact, they don’t even ask!
- Being a man is just “understood” and behavior is expected.
- Strength and masculinity is associated in contradictory ways. If you don’t have muscles you may not be seen as a “man” and yet on the other side of the spectrum, if you do have muscles then you can’t have emotions.
- Magazines such as Mens Health and GQ are teaching our kids to cut the fat, intensify exercise, adhere to strict meal protocols and when a male can’t meet these impossible demands, they feel compromised.
- Emotions mean you are weak, you should not share.
- Creativity, expression, softness – all are not characteristic of being masculine.
- Being a “Man” feels as though you have to always be a leader.
There is a way to stop the madness.
There is a way out.